Have you ever felt like you're always on a quest to fix something within yourself?
June 1, 2024
Many of the women I work with share this feeling, constantly seeking ways to heal physically, emotionally, and spiritually. This relentless search often stems from a desire for perfection - the belief that we must be flawless to be whole. But here's the truth: perfection is an illusion. Letting go of the need to be perfect in women is a healthy step toward real healing. Embracing our imperfections allows us to enjoy life as we are, flaws and all.
In our wellness-driven world, there's a culture of perpetual seeking. We dive into new therapies, read countless self-help books, and attend workshop after workshop. While these tools can be beneficial, the endless pursuit often keeps us in a cycle of never feeling "healed enough." We’re so busy seeking that we forget to pause and integrate what we’ve learned. True healing requires this time for integration, allowing our minds and bodies to absorb and adapt to the changes.
Our thoughts and beliefs hold incredible power over our physical health. Imagine your mind constantly whispering that something is wrong—your body starts to believe it. This is backed by the science of psychoneuroimmunology, which studies how our mind, nervous system, and immune system interact.
When we perceive a threat or imbalance, our body’s stress response kicks in. Cortisol, the stress hormone, prepares us to fight or flee. But if this response is triggered all the time, it can lead to hormonal imbalances, weaken our immune system, and cause various health issues. Constantly seeking healing can keep us stuck in this stress cycle, creating even more imbalance.
Imagine for a moment, instead of focusing on what needs fixing, you embrace the flow of life. Living fully can help our body’s natural healing mechanisms work their magic. It's about finding a state of flow where your body, mind, and spirit are in harmony.
Dr. Herbert Benson talks about the relaxation response, our body’s ability to enter a state of deep rest. This state counters the stress response, lowers cortisol levels, and promotes overall well-being. Activities like mindfulness, meditation, and simply being present and enjoying life can trigger this response, enhancing our natural healing processes and encouraging more presence with the flow of life itself.
So how do we find this magical state of flow? It’s simpler than you might think. It’s about rediscovering joy and allowing ourselves to live fully. Here are some ways to get started:
Present Moment Awareness: Picture yourself savoring your morning cup of tea, feeling the warmth in your hands, the aroma filling your senses. Mindfulness is all about being present, enjoying these small moments. It reduces stress and brings a sense of peace and presence.
Positive Affirmations: Start your day with affirmations like, “I am whole and well.” These positive statements can help shift your mindset from “I need to heal” to “I am enough,” fostering a healthier mind-body connection.
Joyful Activities: What makes your heart sing? Dancing in your living room, painting, or spending time in nature? These activities aren’t just fun—they activate the relaxation response, supporting your hormones to release endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin.
Balancing Effort and Ease: Think of your healing journey as a dance between effort and ease. Push yourself gently, but also allow yourself to rest. This balance prevents burnout and supports health.
Gentle Exploration: Exploring the root causes of our imbalances should be a gentle, compassionate process. Approach your health with curiosity, not judgment. This kindness towards yourself can foster true healing.
To truly heal, we need to allow time for integration. This means taking breaks from the constant search for new healing methods and allowing ourselves to simply be. It’s in these moments of stillness that our body and mind can process and adapt to the healing work we’ve done.
Healing and doing inner work often becomes a strive for perfection that never actually exists. Letting go of the need to be perfect is a healthy step towards real healing. Embrace your imperfections, allowing them to be as they are, so you can enjoy life as you are, flaws and all. There is always more work to be done, but the real work is showing up for life and living from a place of love and acceptance. The joy that comes from living far outweighs the need to do "more" inner work. It's a balance, and there are seasons for it all.
The journey of healing is valuable, but true healing often comes from living joyfully and fully. By shifting our focus from seeking to living, we can create a balanced, healthier life. Embracing the flow of life allows our body’s natural healing mechanisms to flourish, leading to genuine joy and flow. And isn’t that the whole point of doing the inner work? So we can truly enjoy our outer worlds.
If want to learn how to get to the root cause of perfectionism, and learn how to create and embrace flow in your own life. I am here to help. As a holistic women's coach, I specialise in guiding women to balance their hormones, manage stress, and live in harmony with their bodies, to create a great sense of purpose in your life.
Book a free discovery call with me today, and let’s work together to heal and help you thrive in your FLOW, with less stress! Click Here - to schedule your free discovery call
